Health, Love and Happiness begin with you!
This month our clinic theme is love, health and happiness, as its February and all! These 3 things are all completely in your control and all inter-related. No one else has the capacity to control these things, only you!
The way you respond to what’s around you is choice. We all have negative reactions sometimes, the key is to notice them and then tell yourself something positive. My biggest bug bear is aggressive drivers, especially those who tailgate and speed. Sometimes I get irritated with them and upset with the injustice of their behaviour. Other times I just notice them and consciously decide to keep smiling, when they find a safe place to overtake they can. The more I practice the latter, the more it has started to become a habit and the happier my days are!
Be grateful for life everyday, remember the small things. Our brains are wired to seek the negative, it is a form of protection. A good example is dog mess, we learn to look out for it and not stand in it. Now it is law to pick up your dogs doings, however instead of us appreciating and being grateful for the lovely clear pavements we have the majority of the time, we instead moan when we see mess!
A good practice to get into is picking 5 things that happened in the day you are grateful for. Either write them down or say them out loud to yourself every evening. The positive mind set this leaves you it will make you feel great. The small things that erk you really are just small and insignificant so do not warrent any energy spent.
Surround yourself with friends and family. Be picky about who you spend time with. Choose people that energise and support you. If you find someone a constant drain perhaps it is time to consider whether you need them in your life. Sometimes it can be hard to let people go, however in the long run you will be thanking yourself for it.
If something is on your mind, don’t let it fester. Talk to your loved ones about it, they love you and will support you. Sometimes it may even been an issue you are having in your relationship with them, if you do not communicate with them, they will never know. Try and find ways to speak to your loved ones without blame. A good way to do this is to talk about your feelings and how sometimes they make your feel a certain way. Communication is the key to a happy relationship.
Nutrition and Water
If you look after your body, it will look after you. Your body and all its components are only as good as the food you feed them. Food can be the greatest medicine or the slowest posion! We are made from nature and therefore our body needs food from nature. I have never seen a packet of biscuits growing from a tree, have you!?
Try and eat more than 5 portions of fruit and vegetables daily and regularly drink water. Not only will your skin glow, your bowel movements will improve and your overall energy will pick up. Providing good healthly food shows your body you love yourself. You deserve it.
When your overall health improves, instantly it makes you feel more positive and your sense of wellbeing increases.
Saying all that, moderation is key! If you deny yourself all the little pleasures in life, then all you will do is crave them. If you want some chocolate, have it and feel good about it, no guilt. Enjoy it and remind yourself that this was my choice today and I loved it!
Get outside amongst nature. I always feel absolutely fabulous when I have spent time outside. Just feeling the breeze (wind if you are in Peacehaven) on your skin makes you feel alive! Yes its cold at the moment, all these sensations are amazing and we should feel grateful to be able to experience them. For me going for a brisk walk 20 minute walk along the coast or in the woods rejunvinates me. I take the time to let my senses take everything in, from the sound of the waves crashing and birds tweeting to the smells in the air.
Get 30 minutes daily. Exercise improves blood flow and nerve flow. When everything is moving your brain is active, firing and strengthening. Exercise has been shown to releases cannabinoid type molecules into the bloodstream, these give you an instant high! No wonder exercise makes you feel great! The article below is a study that details some of the reasearch done in this area. If you like a complex read then this can explain a little further.
Find your Passion
This doesn’t have to be your job. Luckily for me mine is, however for my partner it is music, not just any music mind. He loves anything with skilled muscians (so modern day pop is out, sorry Taylor Swift) and is constantly writing lyrics himself and learning new instruments. He is never happier than when he has accomplished a new riff!
Whatever yours might be, prioritise it, the dishes can wait (unless its your turn darling!)
Finally with the growing awareness of mental illness and understanding how to support someone, scientists are trying to discover the secret to happiness. The link below is to a short survey. If you have the time please do take part.